The server sometimes still has trouble working behind the NAT Firewall on home routers that's why things like
http://www.eqemulator.net/wiki/wikka...akka=RouterFix are suggested. It's also mentioned in the setup guide at the top of this forum but not in much detail
http://eqemulator.net/forums/showthread.php?t=29043.
If that still doesn't work then it's likely a problem with your config xml file.